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Connection between happiness, health and sexuality.

Connection between happiness, health and sexuality. In this blog, you will find answers on left as to why such, most importantly consensual sex is important for one’s health and happiness.

Good sex makes one quite happy:

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it may be taboo in most societies to talk about sex but it is time we accept that good sex is an inseparable part of our well-being and happiness. It is proven that those who engage in more sex report better quality of life. It is linked to high satisfaction across life domains. In a few studies, it has been proven that married patients with heart disease and individuals who has a higher frequency of sexual intercourse; reported higher marital quality, marital consensus, marital go-ahead means, marital affection expression and overall marital satisfaction these results are replicated in multiple studies. 

Sex keeps us alive:

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one of Freud’s theories was about sex or death. He debated whether one lives for sex or dies. That may not be agreed upon by a lot of people but when read about it makes a lot more sense. However, having a sound sexy like an adult it is linked to low mortality. In a seven-year follow-up study of men 17 years old or older, erectile dysfunction and having no sexual activity at baseline predicted increased mortality over time. Similar findings were shown in younger men. This is probably because more physically healthy individuals are sexually active.

No sex or forced sex can affect our mental health:

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There is a two-way road between bad sex and depression. Depression is also a reason for bad sex, particularly for women. And, men who are depressed are more likely to sexually abuse their partners. And it’s important to note, in the wake of continuing news of sexual assault and abuse, that forced sex in intimate relations makes people depressed, paranoid, jealous, and ruins relationships. Couples who experience unwanted sex have a higher risk of experiencing other types of abuse, as bad habits tend to cluster.

Sex different for men and women?

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Men and women differ in the degree to which their sexual act is attached to their physical, emotional, and relational well-being. Various reasons play a role among both genders, but for women, sexual function is heavily influenced by mental health and relationship quality. By contrast, for men, sexual health reflects physical health. This is also intuitive as the most common sexual disorders are due to problems with desire and erection for women and men, respectively.

Reasons for avoiding sex:

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As I explained in another article in The Conversation, sexual avoidance for those who have a partner or are in a relationship happens for a long list of reasons, including pain, medications, depression and chronic disease. Common diseases such as heart disease interfere with sex by causing fear and anxiety about sexual intercourse. Ageing should not be considered a sexless age. Studies have shown that older adults acquire skills and strategies that can buffer age-related declines in their sexual life, particularly when they are in a positive relationship. This is called seniors’ sexual wisdom.

How to get back on track?

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Because people avoid sex for various reasons, there is no single answer for those who want to become sexually active again. For many men, physical health problems are barriers. If they have erectile dysfunction, they can seek medical help for that. If fear of sex in the presence of chronic disease is a problem, there can be medical help for that as well. For many women, common barriers are relational dissatisfaction and mental health.

For both men and women, the first step is to talk about their sexual life with their physician, counselor or therapist. At least half of all medical visits do not cover any discussion about the sexual life of patients. Embarrassment and lack of time are among the most common barrier. So make sure you make time to talk to your doctor or health care provider. Neither the doctor nor the patient should wait for the other person to start a dialogue about their sexual concerns. The “don’t tell, don’t ask” does not take us anywhere. The solution is “do tell, do ask.” 


It can be difficult to deal with a situation where one person feels that sex is essential in a relationship while the other person doesn’t want to have sex. Similarly, it can be difficult if one person has a high libido while the other person has a low libido. However, it’s not impossible to manage. Communication can be extremely helpful. Communicating about intimacy is essential. It’s important to talk to your partner if your sexual desires are changing. This will help you understand your partners feeling and create a way accordingly; letting you have a great relationship with your partner.