SPICE UP Your SEX LIFE with These Tips for GREAT SEX
When a couple has a good relationship, they’re usually having a good sex life too. And the reciprocal is true as well; the bedroom and your relationship are inseparably connected. So connecting in the bedroom as often as you can helps you to connect outside the bedroom more often, too. We will share with you the super beneficial 12 tips for couples from Best Sexologist in India.
Researchers have outlined the number of times couples should get down in a week and it’s once a week. Having sex once a week seems to be the sweet spot. Having sex more often than once a week doesn’t make the average couple any happier. On the other hand, it doesn’t make them any less happy. And even though you might imagine that men disagree with once-a-week in a big way, think again. Results were the same for men and women, for young and elderly, and for longtime and short-term relationships.
Here are the easy ways to spice things up: 12 tips for couples
- Learn New Sex Positions
This is the easiest, but also one of the most effective ways of keeping things interesting. Many positions can help both men and women to hold the upper hand during sexual activity; which tends to improve the overall experience of sex for both partners.
If your man is not keen to try out new sex positions, then you are going to need to be the one who takes action. Pick out a few positions (only 1 or 2) from the 100 different sex positions and keep them in mind the next time you are in bed with your man. There’s no need to tell him that you want to try them. Instead, just take the position and help to guide your man.
If you’ve never taken the lead in bed before, you may feel a little nervous trying this. But your man will enjoy it. Trust me. You’ll find it best to try out some of the easier-to-perform positions that don’t require lots of flexibility and are easy to transition to.
- Love your naked body
Women who have the best sex lives feel good about their bodies. They see themselves as strong and sexy. Try to avoid having a negative body image. Typically, when a woman looks at herself, her eyes go straight to her problem areas and those feelings are carried into the bedroom, and when her partner is kissing her thighs, she’s busy thinking, ‘God, I’m so fat!’ To boost your body confidence, give yourself a reality check.
Practice body-positive affirmations the next time you’re at the store or in the gym take a look around you at all the attractive women who are a variety of shapes and sizes. Remind yourself: There is no one ideal. Then ask your partner what he loves about your body and write it down. Read the list every morning. Finally, compliment yourself. At least once a week if not every day, stand in front of the mirror naked and focus on your favorite features — your toned arms, your firm butt, your gorgeous breasts. Touch each part and say aloud what you like about it. This will help to reinforce your feelings.
- Becoming Dominant, Exploring Your Submissive Side
Most relationships have one partner that is slightly more dominant in bed while the other partner is slightly more submissive. Not in the D/S sense of the word. But in the sense that one partner is more eager to try out new things, change position, or engage the other in sex.
A great way to spice things up is to change your role the next time you’re in bed with your man. So if he is usually the one who wants to change position, you should try to beat him to the punch and change positions instead. (Make sure to try out some new sex positions too!) Or maybe he usually initiates sex. Why not try being the aggressor this time? Or maybe you usually start foreplay. Try holding out until he does.
You might feel a bit uneasy about changing roles at first. But don’t worry; your man will be pleasantly surprised! You’ll find that this dirty-talking tutorial video serves as a great introduction to learning how to be more dominant by talking dirty in a way that builds sexual tension, turns him on, and keeps him attracted to you. Enjoy!
- Try new positions
Trying new positions might boost the newness in your relationship, help you bond even close; building a new way of seeking mutual sexual satisfaction. There are many positions that you have not tried recently (or at all). There are many resources and illustrated books to give you some ideas. Make a point to try a new position each time you make love.
- Touch and tease
Yes, but highly effective. That’s because when you tell yourself you can’t have something, you want it even more. The same is true in the bedroom — especially if you and your partner have been together for a while and sex has become automatic. Instead of focusing on the end game, learn to enjoy the sensuality of sex. Tease yourself — and your partner. Get undressed, dim the lights and take turns exploring each other’s bodies.
- Add a few kinks
It’s easy to get lazy in bed. But you both deserve better. If you don’t put energy into your relationship, you won’t get energy out of it.
New and adventurous activities may stimulate the brain to produce dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a key role in sexual desire. Do something daring outside the bedroom and dopamine levels may skyrocket, along with your sex drive. Experiencing something new and exhilarating together helps replicate that feeling you had at the beginning of your relationship when you couldn’t get enough of each other.
- Tell your partner how to turn you on
Men want to be your knight in shining armor when it comes to sex — they’re eager for you to tell them what feels good. Help him, and yourself, by showing him what turns you on. Put your hand on top of his and guide him in how you want to be touched — including how much pressure to use. When you’re ready to move on to oral sex or to bring in a few sex toys, speak up. This is the only way he’s going to know what works for you.
- Change your routine
When you’re stressed out, it’s impossible to feel sexy. That’s because when a woman experiences chronic tension, her body produces higher levels of oxytocin, a chemical that cancels out the effects of the sex hormone testosterone. As a result, your libido takes a nosedive. Recharge your sexual batteries by doing things that let you break free from your hectic everyday life. When you’re relaxed and feeling good about yourself, sex will start to seem within the realm of possibility again.
- Be confident, make the first move
A recent study found that the leading predictor of a woman’s marital happiness was the level of her husband’s emotional engagement. If you two are spending quality time together, you’re happy. But when you’re feeling disconnected, your relationship and your sex life suffer. You need to feel close to him to be inspired to make love, and he often needs sex to feel close to you.
How to break the stalemate? Make the first move. Do something simple like thanking him for the little things. When you give him a little gratitude, it’s a huge bonding moment for him. In response, he’ll start turning back into what you need, and you’ll be much more likely to want him in return.
- Do something exhilarating
Believe it or not your chance of having sex increases if you laughed and had fun together. You two will be connecting in a way that triggers the feel-good chemicals (like when you fell in love).
- Use Sex Toys
Sex toys are great. Especially if you want to spice things up. There is a sex toy for everything. For him, for her. For his penis, for your clitoris. Using sex toys during foreplay is great for getting each other hot and bothered before sex. They can also be great instead of sex and during sex as well.
But like I advise with all of the tips you read here: if you solely rely on sex toys, then things will inevitably start to get boring and routine. A good way to view sex toys is to see them as a spice, not the main course.
12. Talk Dirty
Talking dirty to your man can be powerful. Not to mention the powerful dirty-talking tutorial video created to get you up to speed, fast. Rather than rehashing everything already in the talking dirty section, you should just check it out for yourself. For those who don’t know about the power of talking dirty, a lot of women like it as it can be used to keep your man constantly turned on and thinking about you when you are not around.
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